The XY ConneXion®️ System for Couples
All Successful Relationships Go Through these 7 Phases of ConneXion.
A ConneXion is a Strong Emotional Bond
Every Phase has its own Challenges that should be overcome before the next phase. All Phases are Connected.
OBJECTIVE: Pre-Program Discovery and Change
Introspection. Observation. Discovery. Learning. Strategy. Change.
Question: Can I Pause long enough to Regroup and Learn?
THE CHALLENGE PHASE:
OBJECTIVE: Focusing on your own challenges
Dimensions: Covers all Dimensions
Question: Can I DIY and Self-Challenge to get all the relationship changes I need?
THE BASIC CONNEXION PHASE:
OBJECTIVE: Getting the Basics Right: Basic bonding
Dimensions: Communication and Intimacy
Question: Does the way I Communicate or Intimate Promote ConneXion or DisConneXion?
THE LEARNING PHASE (Or the Working Phase):
OBJECTIVE: Adapting, Resolving Conflict,
Dimensions: Adaptability and Interactivity (conflict resolution)
Question: Who's doing the heavy lifting in the relationship? How do we interact to resolve conflict?
THE BALANCE PHASE:
OBJECTIVE: Finding the right balance between vocation & family, self
& partner, partner & children, family & friends
Dimensions: Connectivity and Social Relational ConneXion
Question: How close can I get to you without losing myself? How do I strike the right balance?
THE SELF-CONNEXION PHASE:
OBJECTIVE: Differentiation, Self-coaching
Dimensions: Self-care, Self-coaching, Problem Solving. (OR SELF-PARTNERING)
Question: Can I DIY my relationship or do you do I need a coach, a community, or a strategic team? How much support do I need to succeed?
THE (SECURE) CONNEXION PHASE:
OBJECTIVE: Strong secure emotional bond
Dimensions: Maintenance, Relapse Prevention, Relationship Tune-up
Question: How do I maintain my strong connection? What is Type Infidelity and how do I avoid this trap?
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