The XY ConneXion®️
System for Individuals
All Successful Relationships Go Through these 7 Phases of ConneXion.
A ConneXion is a Strong Emotional Bond
Every Phase has its own Challenges that should be overcome before the next phase. All Phases are Connected.
In 10 minutes, Testing Can Indicate Which Phase You’re In, and Whether
Needs Are Being Met
OBJECTIVE: Pre-Program Discovery and Change
7 Tasks: XY Testing. Introspection. Observation. Discovery. Learning. Strategy. Change
Question: Can I Pause long enough to Regroup and Learn?
THE CHALLENGE PHASE:
OBJECTIVE: Willingness to Experiment, Focusing on your own challenges
Dimensions: Covers all Dimensions
Question: Can I DIY and Self-Challenge to get all the relationship changes I need?
THE BASIC CONNEXION (HONEYMOON) PHASE:
OBJECTIVE: Getting the Basics Right: Basic bonding
Dimensions: Communication and Intimacy
Question: Does the way I Communicate or Intimate Promote ConneXion or DisConneXion?
THE LEARNING PHASE (Or the Working Phase):
OBJECTIVE: Adapting, Resolving Conflict,
Dimensions: Adaptability and Interactivity (conflict resolution)
Question: Who's doing the heavy lifting in the relationship? How do we interact to resolve conflict?
THE BALANCE PHASE:
OBJECTIVE: Finding the right balance between vocation & family, self & partner, partner & children, family & friends
Dimensions: Connectivity and Social Relational ConneXion
Question: How close can I get to you without losing myself? How do I strike the right balance?
THE SELF-CONNEXION PHASE:
OBJECTIVE: Differentiation, Self-coaching
Dimensions: Self-care, Self-coaching, Problem Solving.
Question: Can I DIY my relationship or do you do I need a coach, a community, or a strategic team? How much support do I need to succeed?
THE (SECURE) CONNEXION PHASE:
OBJECTIVE: Strong secure emotional bond
Dimensions: Maintenance, Relapse Prevention, Relationship Tune-up
Question: How do I maintain my strong connection? What is Type Infidelity and how do I avoid this trap?
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