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XY Relational Coaching Credential for (Certified Coaches)

  • All Successful Relationships Go Through these 7 Phases of ConneXion.

  • A ConneXion is a Strong Emotional Bond

  • Every Phase has its own Challenges that should be overcome before the next phase. All Phases are Connected.

  • In 10 minutes, Testing Can Indicate Which Phase You’re In, and Whether
    Needs Are Being Met

I.

THE METAPHASE:

OBJECTIVE: Pre-Program Discovery and Change

 

7 Tasks: XY Testing. Introspection. Observation. Discovery. Learning. Strategy. Change

 

Question: Can I Pause long enough to Regroup and Learn?

II.

THE CHALLENGE PHASE: 

OBJECTIVE: Willingness to Experiment, Focusing on your own challenges

Dimensions: Covers all Dimensions

 

Question: Can I DIY and Self-Challenge to get all the relationship changes I need?

III.

THE BASIC CONNEXION (HONEYMOON) PHASE:

 

OBJECTIVE: Getting the Basics Right: Basic bonding

Dimensions: Communication and Intimacy

 

Question: Does the way I Communicate or Intimate Promote ConneXion or DisConneXion?

IV.

THE LEARNING PHASE (Or the Working Phase):

OBJECTIVE: Adapting, Resolving Conflict,
Problem Solving 

 

Dimensions: Adaptability and Interactivity (conflict resolution)

 

Question: Who's doing the heavy lifting in the relationship? How do we interact to resolve conflict?

V.

THE BALANCE PHASE:

 

OBJECTIVE: Finding the right balance between vocation & family, self & partner, partner & children, family & friends

Dimensions: Connectivity and Social Relational ConneXion

 

Question: How close can I get to you without losing myself? How do I strike the right balance?

VI.

THE SELF-CONNEXION PHASE:

 

OBJECTIVE: Differentiation, Self-coaching

 

Dimensions: Self-care, Self-coaching, Problem Solving.

(OR SELF-PARTNERING)

 

Question: Can I DIY my relationship or do you do I need a coach, a community, or a strategic team? How much support do I need to succeed?

VII.

THE (SECURE) CONNEXION PHASE:

 

OBJECTIVE: Strong secure emotional bond

 

Dimensions: Maintenance, Relapse Prevention, Relationship Tune-up

 

Question: How do I maintain my strong connection? What is Type Infidelity and how do I avoid this trap?

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